You've been with your guy for 5,6,7 years or more; you have kids together, you live together. Then what seems to be the problem? How come he hasn't asked you to marry him? Is he just afraid of commitment? Well, in some way he has committed to you by living with you, there's just that one missing piece, that ever elusive marriage.
In my parents' generations it would have been unheard of for a man and woman to live together never mind have kids out of wedlock, you would have been viewed as a social outcast.
However, in 2009 this is commonplace in our culture, it's basically accepted as the norm.
I guess my real question to the ladies is what's the point of getting married if you're living like a married couple anyway? Does the marriage certificate make your relationship any more valid than it is now? Why is it that the national divorce rate is growing higher every year but couples that live together but are not married have better success?
One piece of insight I have for you ladies is that men are creatures of habit. If you allow them to get comfortable they will want to stay that way for the foreseeable future.
In other words if you want a future with your guy then you have to make him uncomfortable, make him work for whatever he gets. If he asks you to move in together tell him no. A guy has a live-in girlfriend that cooks and cleans for him then why bother getting married he already has what he needs from you. It goes back to the old adage, "why buy the cow when you already have the milk at home?" No I'm not calling women cows...I'm just sayin'...
Oh, and one more thing..don't give an ultimatum to anyone, especially not to a guy. Trust me on this one it will backfire and blow up in your face.
In this day and age is marriage all it's cracked up to be?
In my parents' generations it would have been unheard of for a man and woman to live together never mind have kids out of wedlock, you would have been viewed as a social outcast.
However, in 2009 this is commonplace in our culture, it's basically accepted as the norm.
I guess my real question to the ladies is what's the point of getting married if you're living like a married couple anyway? Does the marriage certificate make your relationship any more valid than it is now? Why is it that the national divorce rate is growing higher every year but couples that live together but are not married have better success?
One piece of insight I have for you ladies is that men are creatures of habit. If you allow them to get comfortable they will want to stay that way for the foreseeable future.
In other words if you want a future with your guy then you have to make him uncomfortable, make him work for whatever he gets. If he asks you to move in together tell him no. A guy has a live-in girlfriend that cooks and cleans for him then why bother getting married he already has what he needs from you. It goes back to the old adage, "why buy the cow when you already have the milk at home?" No I'm not calling women cows...I'm just sayin'...
Oh, and one more thing..don't give an ultimatum to anyone, especially not to a guy. Trust me on this one it will backfire and blow up in your face.
In this day and age is marriage all it's cracked up to be?
