Monday, May 18, 2009

It's Your Fault Men Cheat? by Men Are Speaking.com


Today's parents are raising their little boys to be "palyas" and cheaters...
Why can little Johnny in 3rd grade come home, tell his parents that he has 3 girlfriends and get applause? The parents make comments like "that's my boy" or "he is going to have all the girls chasing him"
If it were little Jennifer coming home saying these things her parents would be outraged. They would want to run an intervention. She would be told "that is not how proper ladies act and you should not be thinking about boys until you're 35 years old."
As little boys grow into men they carry this same mentality through life. It's okay to have multiple relationships at the same time, it's okay to lie to your women and they see this as a rite of passage into manhood, they wear this badge of honor proudly on their chest.
Here's an even better question.
Why are women so forgiving and willing to take back cheating men time and time again? , (and you know who you are so don't try to hide the fact.) Is it because women have come to expect less and less from their relationships? Have women lowered their standards permanently? When a man gets cheated on he often doesn't give out second chances, is the male ego that fragile or are we just selfish?
In today's society is there such a thing as a monogamous relationship anymore?

Monday, May 11, 2009

The TellTale Heart by Men Are Speaking.com


Ok, now that we've explored jealousy in realtionships I think it's appripriate to talk about when your suspicions are confirmed. WHEN THEY CHEAT!!! (insert dramatic music here)
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When you think that your partner is having an affair, you begin looking for different signs of cheating. The trouble is, what is innocent behavior and what is really a sign that something is going on?

You can use this information for what's it's worth so "ENTER AT YOUR OWN RISK"



Some of these signs of cheating are "tongue in cheek" while others are tell-tale signs that commonly appear with a cheating husband or cheating wife.
1) You find birth-control pills in her medicine cabinet, and you've had a vasectomy. (DUH)
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2) Mutual friends start acting strangely toward you. (They either know about the cheating or have been told stories about what a horrible wife or girlfriend you are.)
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3) Your cheating husband or wife stops confiding in you and seeking advice from you.
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4) Sets up a new e-mail account and doesn't tell you about it.
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5) He leaves the house in the morning smelling like Irish Spring and returns in the evening smelling like Safeguard.
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6) She joins the gym and begins a rigorous workout program.
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7) She buys a cell phone and doesn't let you know.
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8) He sets up a separate cell phone account that is billed to his office.
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9) The cheating husband carries condoms, and you are on the pill.
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10) Begins to delete all incoming phone calls from the caller ID.
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11) Deletes all incoming e-mails when they used to accumulate.
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12) He becomes "accusatory," asking if you are being true to him, usually out of guilt.
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13) Raises hypothetical questions such as, "Do you think it's possible to love more than one person at a time?"
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14) He buys himself new underwear.
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15) He insists the child seat, toys, etc., are kept out of his car.
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16) The cheating wife stops wearing her wedding ring.
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17) Has a sudden desire to be helpful with the laundry.
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18) Has unexplained scratches or bruises on his or her neck or back.
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19) Suddenly wants to try new love techniques.
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20) He/she fairly suddenly stops having sex with you.
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21) He/she suddenly wants more sex, more often.
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22) Supposedly works a lot of overtime, but it never shows up on the pay stub.
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23) Picks fights in order to stomp out of the house.
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24) You find out by accident he or she took vacation day or personal time off from work - but supposedly worked on those days.
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25) Shows a sudden interest in a different type of music.
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26) Spouse's co-workers are uncomfortable in your presence.
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27) Has a sudden preoccupation with his or her appearance.
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28) Spends an excessive amount of time on the computer, especially after you have gone to bed.
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29) He throws up a lot because he just ate at his mistress's house and had to eat the dinner you prepared when he got home.
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30) Your spouse is away from home, either nights or on trips, more than previously.
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31) His/her clothes smell of an unfamiliar perfume or after-shave. You see lipstick on your husband's shirt.
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32) The amount of money being deposited into your checking account drops off.
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33) You find items of intimate apparel or other small gift-type items that you did not give your spouse.
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34) Your spouse seems less comfortable around you and is "touchy" and easily moved to anger.
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35) You get calls where the caller hangs up when he or she hears your voice.
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36) He/she loses attention in the activities in the home.
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37) Your intuition (gut feeling) tells you that something is not right.
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38) He/she has a definite change in attitude towards everyone in the home.
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39) She uses a low voice or whisper on the phone or hangs up quickly.
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40) She has a "glow" about her.
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41) Atypical erratic behavior.
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42) He sneaks out of the house.
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43) She sleeps with her purse by the bed
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44) She goes to the store for groceries and comes home 5 hours later.
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45) He tells you can get hold of him at a different telephone number.
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46) The telltale signs of a cheating spouse? Having to ask that question in the first place.

Well I hope this opened some eyes and I look forward to hearing your comments...

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Wednesday, May 6, 2009

The Green Eyed Monster by Men Are Speaking.com



Jealousy really has no place in any relationship. If you want to be the one woman your man is crazy about, shelf all of your feelings of jealousy. What most women don't realize is that when you express jealousy you're actually making a fairly bold statement about yourself. If you're jealous of another woman, you're suggesting that you're not confident with yourself.
What men want in a woman is someone who is very self assured. Never let him see you jealous and never tell him that you don't want him hanging out with female friends or co-workers. If he feels that you trust him, he'll love you even more.